What’s Next?… the dreadful question.

What’s next?

I have been asked this question a lot these days and I don’t have the answer.
Why have I been asked this?

Because I just graduated as an architect. So they ask me are you done with your studies? I say yes. Then they ask what are you going to do now? And I don’t know what to say because I know what they want to hear. They want to hear that I am going to get a job now, gain experience and build my career as an architect. But I don’t say that because I don’t want that.

Why do I don’t a want that?

In simple words, I don’t have the confidence.

I have shared it once before in my post, ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS(Revised), how the five years of my university life have been the toughest. I have been a very good student in my school as well as college, I worked hard and I got the reward for that and I got the appreciation for that. But then in university things started going downhill.

At first I thought it’s because I have opted a different field and I’ll learn everything eventually. But I didn’t get better. At least not as good as I wanted to be. So I started getting depressed. Even then from time to time I tried to pick myself up and try harder but somehow my 100% was always 60, 70%. By the time, I realized that I had chosen a wrong field of study for myself, I was in the third year and I was stuck. I couldn’t leave, no matter how much I wanted to and I had to complete it. I got really depressed and lost all of my confidence. I have never been a very confident and outgoing person, but now I lost even the little I had.
In the last year, I took writing more seriously and also started writing this blog which helped me a lot to deal with low feelings and complete my degree. I completed my degree. I didn’t quit.While, that is an accomplishment I don’t feel accomplished.(That doesn’t mean I am ungrateful to Allah because only HE got me through that difficult time.)

So, now, when I say I want to stay away from architecture my friends try to tell me that I should work, it would change my thinking…
It took a lot of time and energy to be able to stand on my feet again and keep standing, I have not been able to walk yet because the standing is taking all I have in me.

I am afraid that I am going to fall down again and I don’t want that.

So, yes, I don’t want to work and I don’t want to make a career in this profession.

They tell me that if I won’t do anything I’ll become dull and depressed. I don’t know why people think that if I do something architecture related only then I’ll be doing something useful.

I say that I am not becoming dull, in fact, I am doing things that I have been wanting to do for a very long time now. But always saved them for another day because I didn’t have the time or I was too depressed. Most importantly, I am writing.
This is something that’s keeping me sane. This is something that I am enjoying. Isn’t that what matters? I plan to take this to a bigger level. I know that I have just taken the first step and there is a long road ahead, but I am willing to keep walking. I am willing to fall down and I am willing to get back up. I am ready to take the challenges and handle failure. I know I will not succeed if I don’t fail first.

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I got an email telling me that they decided to pass on this certain essay I sent them for publication. Got a few more emails like that one. It didn’t hurt at all because I know that it is a long process. I am willing to go through it and I am enjoying it. I have also started to take criticism like a big girl. I am not the person who laughs at her mistakes I sulk and sulk and run on the slightest bit of attack. One of the reasons I couldn’t be good in architecture.

But now I am learning to take criticism positively. It sure hurts my big ego at first, but I sleep on it and try to work on it the next day and it turns out good for me.
I have come out of a lava mountain and people want to know if I’m going to jump off the cliff or into a turbulent ocean next. I say, no, I want to stand here and just let everything sink in. Let go of some demons I caught along my previous journey and prepare for the next.
And not everything is vague. I know what my next is.. Or at least see it far ahead. Yeah, I have a next and that is writing.

After saying all that, a part of me also says that maybe this is all just stupid and I will never get anywhere with writing. Maybe this is all my brain’s way of keeping me sane. But whatever it is I am hanging on to it.Even if I don’t get what I want to achieve, still writing makes me feel good and I am going to hang on to that feeling. I am going to give myself time, wait and see.
I hope that I will be able to get past my fears and become strong and confident.
And one day I will have an answer. When people will ask me such questions, I will not look down or hide away, but instead look them in the eye and tell them what’s next.

callie

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19 thoughts on “What’s Next?… the dreadful question.

  1. That’s a brave post, and good luck to you! I believe ALL study, no matter what the field, expands your mind and therefore enhances your writing..all those essays are excellent practise! 🙂 write a book about an architect! 🙂

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  2. I understand how you feel, seriously. Getting a degree doesn’t only have to be to get a job. You’ve been through school, you are an educated woman and spend your youth now exploring what makes you happy and also find ways that you can work for Allah’s deen as well! (: The possibilities are endless!

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  3. If writing is what you love to do and what you’re good at, I don’t see how doing anything else could make you happy. And phiolosphy lesson 101: aren’t we all here to be happy? I hope you get to where you want to be and good luck along the way!

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  4. When things were not going right for me, my mother used to say,’ Just turn the page my boy and start a new chapter.’ It really works, you can change the plot, change the characters, the motives, the outcomes and the ultimate results.
    You have certainly turned the page and started a new chapter. Good for you. If you work as hard at writing as you did to graduate in architecture, you will certainly succeed.

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  5. I still don’t know what’s next at 41, but I know it’s always more satisfying to follow your heart. Getting back up is a big part of any path, and I’m sure that you will be able to keep getting up where ever you decide to do.

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  6. Most people I know did not wheel in the field they got their degree in. College is stressful, and I know how it feels top be stuck and run out of time. Keep going with writing, and if you want try other things at the same time. Life is a journey, and you don’t have to settle wherever you are for anyone.

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